I’m not calling them resolutions, I feel like that’s setting myself up for failure. I just want to incorporate a few changes to help me not stress or worry so much about the little things. I’m a list maker…but sometimes thinking of those lists is stressful when I’m constantly trying to check things off. So, I’m trying to be more aware of the things that are good around me, that I don’t need to stress about, and learn how to plan my lists a little better so they’re more manageable.
I’ve changed my morning routine this past week, and I’m liking it. I don’t have any projects or work to do before work right now (crafting for a birthday or babyshower, or working on a wedding timeline), so instead I’m waking up and doing 5 minutes of yoga or other exercise, and then a 5 minute written reflection. My reflection is taken from Slow Family Living by Bernadette Noll, and a series of questions suggested in there, although I think I might change the questions in time. Right now they consist of:
- Seven things you are thankful for (seven seems excessive, but maybe that’s the point…there are a lot of things in our daily life to be thankful for that maybe we don’t realize on a daily basis)
- How are you feeling (everyday seems to start with fine or tired, so I’m not sure this question will make it through the year)
- What are your intentions for the day (I do like this one, it makes me refocus and try to stay positive through the day)
- What did you learn yesterday
- What are your goals/desires/wishes for immediate or distant future
- To-do’s (these almost replicate my other to-do lists, but sometimes it helps me bring to mind the immediate to-do’s)
Another great tip that I’ve picked up from this book is to have a “buffer time” in between things, and to not try to squeeze in one more thing before rushing off to the next. The author mentioned trying to send “one more email,” and how that then makes her rush to accomplish the next thing. This is something I do every morning…I push my getting ready for work time until the very last minute, trying to squeeze in one more task to mark off my list. I’m trying not to do that so much, and to leave more time to get ready and head out the door. And to put on mascara. THAT is a New Year’s Resolution: try to at least wear mascara a few days a week. At a minimum (I mean, I’m almost 34…I have to start caring at some point..right?).
I also purchased a planner again this year. I’ve been using Google Calendar for the last few years, and I can’t remember the last time I had an actual, physical planner, but I think it’s time to go back. It means duplicating some calendaring (to keep both my google calendar and my physical planner up to date), but I like the ability to see things on the planner, plus it allows me to break down daily and monthly goals, which I’m really liking. I don’t have to have one long list that I’m constantly trying to tackle, instead I can break it down by week or month. It also has places to write down monthly goals, which I’m loving: I can focus on something to work on each month and have it written down to keep me accountable.
Yesterday (Sunday), I implemented several of these goals and the results were pretty awesome. I got up early (Josh wakes up to nurse around 530/6 and then it’s hard for me to get back to sleep anyway, even on weekends), did my 5 minute “workout,” did my reflections, and then went to the grocery store to buy groceries for the week. I had time to meal plan on Friday, which was GREAT…usually I put off buying groceries until Sunday evening and we try to meal plan at some point over the weekend, but it’s so hard to squeeze in those five minutes with two kids and a house of things to do. Let me tell you, shopping at 7am solo vs. 5pm with kids is a GAME CHANGER. I put on my headphones and listened to an audio book for the Literate Lushes book of the month, and checked everything off my list. I was back home, with groceries unloaded and put away, before anyone even woke up! And then….I didn’t have it in the back of my mind all day…I could just smile knowing that it was done and all our groceries were already in our fridge just waiting to be made, haha. I was so much happier once everyone woke up, knowing that I had already been productive and had some “me” time. Will definitely try to keep that going through the year.
What are your plans/resolutions for 2017?